Dealing with marriage thing, have brought us to lots of thoughts and acts extremely. Since, both of us live separately and having a kind of long distance relationship and moreover we have our career each, so here come a thought “who-will-follow-who”. Generally, we both agree that, once you decided to get married, we don’t use a word “separately” or “distance” anymore. But, when we talk about, “who-will-follow-who”, here comes some issues. So how we could get through from this issue?
Since we both agree, that we don’t dealing with “distance” in marriage, so, it’s easier for us handling this. There are some parameters that we used for assessment to decide “who-will-follow-who.
1. The condition of our work (type of our company, contract, career, salary, etc).
Each of us tried to expose the condition of our work and fortunately we have some extreme conditions that make us easier to choose the winner. In the other word, who can beat “Oil and Gas” company for God Shake? In principle, we agree that, the one that could support the family more powerful, he/she will win this issue.
2. The opportunity of getting a new job or do kind of job by self
We couldn’t be more agree in this issue, since, my education background is pharmacy, so, they called me pharmacist, a profession, that have an opportunity to do kind of job by myself without working to other people. I am the one who have opportunity becoming an “entrepreneur” as soon as possible.
3. The objective of marriage
As the bible told, "It is not good for the man to be alone." God saw that it was not good for Adam to be on his own; he needed a helper to complement and complete him. The animals had mates, but Adam was alone. It was God who created Eve and brought her to the man. It was God, as the Lord Jesus, who ordained the physical relationship which was to be consummated only within the marriage covenant.
"Marriage was ordained for the mutual help of husband and wife; for the increase of mankind with a legitimate issue, and of the church with an holy seed; and for preventing of uncleanness." After companionship, the main purpose of marriage is for the procreation of children. “Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth”.
In simple word we say “ we need each other so we have no reason anymore living separately.
But reason has no power against feeling. The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.